On Sat, May 06, 2006 at 03:39:36PM -0400, Mathieu Bouchard wrote:
On Sat, 6 May 2006, Chris McCormick wrote:
The disrespect is very rarely personal; it's all about the ideas and not the individuals.
I am not sure if you have ever experienced this, but sometimes when somebody disrespects your idea, it's hard not to take it personally. It all comes down to the tone of your language. One must be extra careful in the case of email, as we all know.
In the four years I've been here there have only been a handful of exceptions. As far as I remember, those were one case of "freaking caveman", one case of "pd-guided missile up your ass" and one case of "communists are out to get you", and that's about it, almost all of the other 40000 emails were fine. That's a quite good average compared to some other mailing-lists.
Heheh, so what yr saying is that 66% of all disrespect on this list has been directed at you?
"communists are out to get you"
Actually I think I made that joke twice - once was "left wing conspiracy". Neither was intended to be disrespectful at all (or to imply that you are right wing), but rather a humorous way of saying that I thought you were seeing a unified opposition to your ideas where there really was none. You can think of it as a disrespect of that idea not a disrespect of yourself. Maybe it's similar to how I am seeing disrespect of developers where there is none.
Best,
Chris.
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