hi again,
I have generalized the tot somewhat, now it passes just about any message to the tcl process, and, if a message is preceded with the 'query' selector, receives a reply (see tot-tcl.pd for a regsub and text file reading examples).
Now the tk pathnames have to be explicit. The destination window of a tot object is '.^', so instead of 'kill m', use explicit 'destroy .^.m' (shortcuts can be disabled with 'bind .^.c <Control-Key> ""' etc.)
Krzysztof