Chuckk, while I can sympathize with this, I would also suggest that the goal of many feminists is not equality in the limited sense of "we get the same things as men."  I hope that you don't take this as any kind of attack, because certainly this is not a reflection on you, but I am almost a little bored by that idea.  After a certain point, doesn't the question become - how long will we keep chasing and catching up with men?

In my opinion (as a man though), the more interesting varieties of feminism also encompass a celebration (or expansion) of femininity.  The "feminine" does not have to be a static, rigid entity either - see Donna Harraway's "A Cyborg Manifesto", or feminist responses to Deleuze/Guattari's "rhizome".  Economic justice does require some attention to the idea of equality, but it must an equality that is aware of difference, never turning a blind eye to it.. otherwise, how to address inequality?  By turning back to some abstract enlightenment ideal, or by attending to the differences?

Also I am not a computer science type either (as much as I often wish I was, my degree is in art, so we are related in the $0 market), but I've been on an interesting ride so far in large part because of pd and this list/community, for which I am very grateful.  You can tell by my ridiculous newbie questions from last summer :)

Also I found the mistake over Patrice really beautiful.
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