test with the latest iemnet/tcpserver:
remarkable better results.
no big bursts anymore.
sending every 20 msec,
0-1 % of the messages comes more then 30 msec after the one before.
80-90% follow in 16-24 msec.
99% 11-29 msec
which means (i think) that when there's a latency it gets immediately compensated.
of course these measurements are done in a kind of lab situation.
but anyway, it seems to present a good stepping stone for the projects i want to use it for.
thanks again everyone for the support.
rolf